The Sorry Plane

Deborah MacNamara

The Sorry Plane is a playful introduction for kids and their caregivers to the importance of understanding and respecting our feelings, from the bestselling author of Rest Play Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts like One).

When Molly accidentally breaks a balloon she and her sister Lucy have found, Lucy demands an apology. But, as Molly describes in fanciful, imaginative scenarios, her sorries are all gone: hiding under the bed, down the sink, off to Paris on the Sorry Plane.

As their mother explains, we can’t say sorry if we don’t have any sorries in us. But when our sorries return, as Molly’s eventually do, we can give them to others.

Brilliantly illustrated with captivating images by artist Zoe Si, The Sorry Plane carries a profound message about the importance of connecting with our authentic emotions. It highlights how a good sorry is one that you mean from the heart, and how we adults can preserve a child’s caring spirit.

The Sorry Plane bears the Neufeld Institute Recommended seal which highlights children’s literature that is congruent with developmental science as well as with the relational-developmental approach articulated by Dr. Gordon Neufeld.


“It is my hope that The Sorry Plane lands in every home with children as it delivers such insight into the value and importance of giving and receiving a heartfelt sorry when the time is right.”

“A simple yet powerful message of faith in the developmental process and in the virtue of patience to allow Nature to do its wonderful work with our children.”

The Sorry Plane so eloquently shows us why it is important to give children lots of time to process all of their emotions. When Molly’s ‘sorry’ came back, it was heartfelt and authentic!”

“This is a beautifully illustrated story that will soften the hearts of children and help them find their true feelings. All teachers and parents should read this book to their students or children.”


“Dr. Deborah MacNamara has a beautiful way of translating a child’s thoughts and emotions in a kind, generous, and nurturing way. Sometimes saying sorry is hard. It challenges us to admit we made a mistake, had an accident, or maybe even did something wrong. Giving children the space and grace to come to their own sorry ensures that the child doesn’t feel the pain of vulnerability or shame. The Sorry Plane is perfectly sweet and has a way of teaching that sometimes it takes time to find our sorries. We can all learn from this!”

The Sorry Plane will inspire children and parents to honour the time it takes to face feelings, especially difficult ones involving regret or embarrassment, with encouraging words and delightful illustrations. Dr. Deborah McNamara uses caring, developmentally sensitive language to help children see that it’s all right to take the time to reflect and figure out how to repair inevitable relational mishaps. This is a truly valuable book that all children can relate to.”


Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a clinical counselor and educator with more than twenty-five years’ experience. She is the author of the bestselling book Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts like One). She is on faculty at the Neufeld Institute, operates a counseling practice, and speaks regularly about child and adolescent development to parents, childcare providers, educators, and mental health professionals. She continues to write, do radio and television interviews, and speak to the needs of children and youth based on developmental science. Deborah resides in Vancouver, Canada, with her husband and two children.

ISBN 978-0-9950512-3-2
$16.95 CAD $12.95 USD
Published November 27, 2019
8 × 10 32 Pages