Dying to Be a Good Mother

How I Dropped the Guilt and Took Control of My Parenting and My Life

Heather Chauvin

It’s time to put yourself first. Your life depends on it.

You do not need to be diagnosed with cancer, like Heather Chauvin did, to realize motherhood doesn’t need to suck the life out of you. In fact, the more alive you feel, the less exhausted, irritable, and frustrated you’ll be.

Heather was once like you. A so-called successful working mother of three, juggling a growing career, parenting, and family life—she looked like the very model of success. But inside, she was dying. Literally.

One year after the birth of her youngest son, she was diagnosed with stage four cancer. In the blink of an eye, she saw just how far away she was from living a life she actually wanted. She had spent her entire adult life trying—and dying—to be a good mother. As she battled through months of chemotherapy, illness, and recovery, she realized something: it was time to start living. Not for others—but for herself.

In Dying to Be a Good Mother, Heather—now a TEDx speaker, host of the Mom Is In Control podcast, and personal development coach—takes you through her journey with honesty, humor, and strength. She holds sacred space for you to cry, yell, scream, and dig deep within your soul to return home to your true self. Part memoir and part personal development guide, you’ll learn how to put yourself first and find the happy you deserve.

You might resist this journey. But it’s time to stop using motherhood as an excuse not to take care of yourself, and give yourself permission to create space for what you truly want. It’s time to stop dying to be a good mother, and start living the life you deserve.


“I very seldom meet such a wonderful survivor who says what she lived. Heather Chauvin’s compelling story of loss and ultimate triumph is a testament to the power of the human spirit, and of celebrating both what remains, and what is found, after hitting rock bottom. Her warmth, wit, and shining example will help propel you forward to climb your way to your true self and decide to be the real you.”

“Heather Chauvin is a truth-teller, and this book is a must-read for everyone. Heather’s story will inspire you to release all unnecessary suffering and claim your magical life.”

“Heather Chauvin’s wisdom seeps through each story and lesson. The permission she offers mothers to let go and embrace their current selves as enough is a gift every mother needs upon rising each day. This book is for any mother who needs a gentle yet powerful reminder that your first priority is you—not motherhood, not marriage, just you.”

“Heather Chauvin writes with such refreshing honesty, painting a beautiful picture with her words in a way that makes you feel seen and understood. This book is a must-read for moms. I don’t say that lightly. . . every mom should have access to these words.”

Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home. Drawing from her professional experience as a social worker and her life experience raising three boys, Chauvin created a signature approach to help her clients create and enjoy sustainability, profitability, and ease in business and life. heatherchauvin.com

ISBN 978-1-77458-022-6
$19.95 CAD $16.95 USD
Published March 8, 2021
5.5 × 8.5 262 Pages
Paperback, ebook